“The Urge is too Strong, I Can’t Control it. I Really Want to Stop it.”
A Nigerian film that reveals a common mental condition for uncontrollable Urges for stealing, known as Kleptomania, and its redemptive ways.
In the realm of Nollywood, a recent gem emerged, titled “CALL MY MOM,” and I found myself captivated by its exploration of a rarely discussed psychological condition which Psychologists refer to as – “KLEPTOMANIA.”(a psychological condition characterized by an uncontrollable urge to pilfer).
The film, produced by the talented Ruth Kadiri, delves into the intricate layers of a common yet misunderstood phenomenon, challenging the audience to reconsider preconceived notions about thieves and the motives behind their actions.
Maya’s Uncontrollable Urge to Steal: A Journey Through Family, Loss, and the Search for Redemption
The narrative follows the tumultuous life of an 8-year-old girl, Maya, portrayed brilliantly by Sharon Unigwe, who grapples with an insatiable and uncontrollable urge to pilfer. This compulsion wreaks havoc on her education, relationships, and the lives of those around her. Expelled six times in a year from various schools, her thieving tendencies become a vortex that threatens to consume everything in its path.
Maya’s mother, played by the commendable Okawa Shanzay, stands as a pillar of strength amidst the chaos, facing embarrassment, disgrace, and frustration. Even in the face of her husband’s departure due to the repercussions of their daughter’s actions on a multi-million deal, she refuses to abandon her child and never gives up on her. The resilience displayed by Maya’s mother adds a layer of authenticity to the film, portraying the harsh realities faced by families dealing with unconventional challenges.
Redemption Through Therapy: Melvin Lights the Way for Maya
Amidst the emotional challenge, Maya’s mother finds solace in Eddie Watson, a psychotherapist who enters their lives as her new boyfriend. Melvin’s portrayal is a beacon of hope, as he utilizes his skills to guide Maya towards redemption. His character skillfully navigates the complexities of kleptomania, offering a realistic depiction of the psychological battle faced by those struggling with this uncontrollable urge. Through talk therapy sessions, Melvin becomes the catalyst for Maya’s transformation, helping her gradually shed the shackles of her compulsive behavior.
One of the film’s strengths lies in its relatability. In our own lives, we grapple with personal challenges shrouded in shame, and “CALL MY MOM” fearlessly mirrors this reality. The portrayal of Maya’s kleptomania sheds light on the pervasive nature of hidden family struggles, inviting viewers to reflect on their own experiences. It also highlights the challenges families face when dealing with a loved one’s kleptomania, emphasizing the need for understanding and support rather than judgment. Maya’s mother embodies this approach, demonstrating unwavering love and resilience despite the stigma and embarrassment associated with her daughter’s condition.
Spiritual Intervention or Internal Resolution? “CALL MY MOM” Challenges the Path to Healing
The film takes a poignant turn as Maya’s mother, in desperation, seeks spiritual intervention, a common reflex in African societies. The movie cleverly challenges this mindset, highlighting that some battles are internal and necessitate a different kind of remedy. Maya’s audacious theft from a fake prophet adds a touch of irony, underscoring the futility of seeking answers in the wrong places.
“CALL MY MOM” is not just a cinematic experience; it is a lesson, urging parents to be vigilant about their children’s behavior. Maya’s early instances of kleptomania were dismissed as mere childish behavior, allowing the condition to escalate. Maya’s mother, oblivious to these early signs, serves as a cautionary tale, The film advocates for open dialogue and understanding, emphasizing that some issues require professional help, not just traditional remedies. And also that mental health conditions are real and require support, not judgment.
In the end, “CALL MY MOM” is a powerful and educative piece of cinema. It masterfully navigates the intricacies of kleptomania, showcasing the strength of familial bonds and the potential for redemption. For a few hours of thought-provoking storytelling, this movie is an absolute must-watch. Let it be known that “CALL MY MOM” transcends the screen—it’s a call for empathy, understanding, and a reevaluation of our perceptions about those battling uncontrollable urges.
Kleptomania, the urge to steal despite having no financial need, can be a debilitating condition. While the fear of humiliation or embarrassment may deter individuals from seeking help, it’s essential to address this issue to prevent it from becoming a lifelong struggle.
Treatment Options:
There’s no single, standardized way to treat kleptomania, and researchers are still exploring the most effective approaches. Different individuals may respond better to different therapies, requiring exploration and experimentation to find the optimal solution.
Medication:
- Opioid Antagonists: These medications, such as naltrexone, block the positive emotions associated with stealing, potentially reducing the urge to do so. Research supports their effectiveness as a first-line treatment option.
- Antidepressants: Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) may be prescribed to manage underlying conditions like depression that can contribute to kleptomania.
- Other Medications: Anti-seizure drugs or lithium may be considered depending on the individual’s specific situation and potential co-occurring conditions.
It’s important to discuss potential side effects and interactions with other medications with your healthcare provider or pharmacist when considering medication.
Psychotherapy:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This form of therapy helps individuals identify and replace unhealthy thoughts and behaviors with healthy coping mechanisms. It may involve techniques like:
- Systematic Desensitization and Counter-Conditioning: Practicing relaxation techniques in triggering situations to learn how to manage urges in a healthy way.
- Covert Sensitization: Imagining the negative consequences of stealing to deter urges.
- Aversion Therapy: Using mildly uncomfortable techniques, like holding one’s breath, to reduce the urge to steal.
- Other forms of Psychotherapy: Group therapy, individual therapy, or even hypnosis may be beneficial depending on the individual’s preferences and needs.
A Parting word
Kleptomania may feel like a dark cloud hanging over your life, obscuring the potential for joy and fulfillment. However, with the right support and a commitment to treatment as in the case of Maya, you can reclaim your life and break free from the shackles of this condition. By actively engaging in therapy, exploring medication options,and seeking support from self-help groups, you can develop the coping mechanisms and emotional resilience necessary to manage your urges and build a future filled with hope and happiness. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. There are countless individuals who have successfully navigated kleptomania and achieved meaningful lives. With dedication and perseverance, you can too. Take the first step towards reclaiming your life today, and discover the strength and freedom that lie within you.
